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I draw stuff. I do other stuff too.

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My unsolicited advice:

Posted by deadspread83 - February 15th, 2022

Make your world smaller.

Find people geographically close to you and help them in real life. Your family, friends, or neighbors. Actually do a thing, even if you're miserable...maybe especially if you're miserable. Help a friend move, or maybe help an old lady load her groceries. Make some food and take it to a friend, or a lonely person. Go to a restaurant and buy somebody else's meal without them knowing. Does your community have a help center? Lend a hand.

Newgrounds is a pretty good community too if you want it to be. Make something new and share it here with all of us.

There's all kinds of things you can do in real life to bring a sliver of light into the world if you decide you want to.

You need help? PM me. I'll lend an ear.

Just my two cents.

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TomFulp 2022-02-15 07:50:42

Good advice! The Internet busies us with trying to work the world stage and it's like trying to fill a bottomless bucket.

deadspread83 2022-02-15 07:50:42

I know since I started really trying this in my own life, I find a lot more situations where I can be kind to strangers or kinder to my own family, even ones I don't agree with about everything.

cyangorilla 2022-02-15 11:23:40

Yes :D
Every time I realize I'm upset or that my day is not going great I check where that negativity comes from. Most of the time it starts outside of anything I can affect. For example I'm in a worse mood now for reading a comment section on AppleInsider and if that's not checked it will keep echoing through my day.

Screw that comment section.

Conversely, when I help around the house, and let my girlfriend, friends, and family know I love them my day is way better.

Much love and thank you for the post!

deadspread83 2022-02-15 11:23:40

I know what you mean. I spent more time than I would like to admit on Reddit scrolling through comments, when what I could have done is make a phone call to someone I actually know and see how their day went. It's crazy how sucked in I was to finding stuff to be upset about.

ZacTaylorTunes 2022-02-15 11:54:46

Great advice, you never really know how much someone might really need that help. Even if it's just moving or helping someone load their groceries. You never know what people have going on right?

deadspread83 2022-02-15 11:54:46

Sometimes I'll ask and they'll decline my help, and that's okay too. At least I tried, you know?

Thetageist 2022-02-15 12:26:39

Yes to all of this. I find that activities I can do in real life, with other people face to face, feel much more fulfilling than seeing people online, and in turn, interacting with people online, or even just working on projects on my own, is better than simply being alone with my thoughts.

One of the best things I've learned so far is that, while you shouldn't be stifling your emotions, you should never just sit in a metaphorical pool of them! If you have to, write them down so you can better understand and think logically about them, or release them some other way (such as a brain dump), but either way, do something productive!

If you're a person whose main pastimes are very theoretical and take place on a computer, having a physical hobby such as sports or crafts also can bring you out of your head. Or just something you can do away from your computer, that requires all of your focus and attention, but isn't stressful; certain video games can serve that purpose, like Lichtspeer for me.

This pandemic has definitely made us all rely on the internet more, but, at least from what I've seen, it's also given more people increased awareness of their mental health as well. Hopefully we can take those lessons with us after it ends and use them to help those for whom the situation only got worse, and calm down the world overall.

deadspread83 2022-02-15 12:26:39

I use Newgrounds to unwind, and of all the places that I've found, this is the place with the best community. People here are just like anywhere, so you always have unhappy people too, but I appreciate people here because they actually help each other do stuff that's important to them. That's been my experience, anyway.

ZacTaylorTunes 2022-02-15 17:36:24

@deadspread83 definitely! All anyone can do is try!

Isleling 2022-02-23 16:53:27

Great advice
I like to do what I can for people but I'm often shy there are people I regularly do help out but maybe
I wish I was more confident to let the people in my life now how much I appreciated them especially my friends I'd that I'd like to have a deeper relationship with

Btw Thanks for being the first to follow me

deadspread83 2022-02-23 16:53:27

Your sculptures look good, can't wait to see what else you do!

AvionAris 2022-02-26 11:18:37

this is pretty inspiring
it may be a bit hard to put into work at first but it's a right idea
i used to do this a lot more before, giving lots of critiques to friends and trying to help them with art to the best of my ability, before something changed in me
now i dont do this so much anymore, but seeing somebody with a similar perspective on things makes me think i should start again
i know this is much broader than just giving critique but it was a pretty fulfilling endeavor i think

georgiagalaxy 2022-07-11 22:02:41

Wow, amazing advice *cries with a smile* ??????

georgiagalaxy 2022-07-11 22:03:21

@cyangorilla That's so cool of youuu palll :))

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